Bismillahirrahmanirrahim.
Hey peeps!
Hope everyone is in the best state yea. So
finally I’m here special for this big new stage of my life:
MARRIAGE
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| Entah laa tapi cam comel je kah3 |
Well
actually I just want to note this here so I can always remember this early
stage of our marriage. I don’t have any intention to spread annoying stories
and so. Though I actually start this entry as one of my friend suggested me to
update on my marriage coz she forgot that I already got married hahahh. So below
are my thoughts. Enjoy reading! ;)
It has been
103 days since I got married to a very kind man on 7/7/17. And I learnt so
much on living together with our partner. Yes I did live together with my
friends during my university days. Changing roommates every session, with
different pesen for each. YET, IT IS NOT THE SAME. For marriage, we’ve accepted
somebody to go through the journey together, we need to adapt with the habits,
which sometimes are good habits and there is no exception to bad habits too. PLUS
AND PLUS my husband and I are living with the only two of us. Not like other
people living with family or in laws after got married so we can draw our own
picture.
As for me
myself, it feels like I’m getting to know to someone new though we’ve known
each other since 2011. Yet I didn’t know him so much back then cause we had a
long distance relationship before, only few meetings in a year and these went
on for 4 years since we declared to wait for each other on Eidul Fitr 2013 and
got engaged on 2014. So there were only good attitudes there hahaha. Though
that time I was denying that we were only showing our good self. I thought that
that was already my real me. Yes it was real, but not all attitudes were
revealed LOL. (And yes congratulations to both of us surviving 4 years of LDR
Alhamdulillah ^^ Nak tips pm tepi hahaha).
Looking
backwards, honestly I feel blessed with this man I married. Of course he is not
the perfect man in the world, but he’s too good for me already. A tolerate and
nice and lovable man. Yet he do has flaws. Humans kan.. He is not a bad
tempered person but I will back off if he is pissed off on his office matter
and so. I’ve seen he’s being mad for once on that and I hope I won’t see that
again hahahah seram sehhh orang tak pernah marah tetiba meletupp!!! Tatau nak
react cemana LOL tho it’s not because of us. He’s lack of sense too (typical man)
so I will have to tell him if there’s something going on or you will makan hati
sensorang laa kalo tak luahkan hahaha. But every time he did bit wrong, he will
apologize and so do I. This is what I like for both of us. Communication and
tolerate is the key here. So I hope we can maintain this.
All my gratitude to Allah swt, Alhamdulillah
for blessing me with this marriage. He didn’t mind of my pesen selekeh and
ganas (due to living with 5 boys at home LOL), well we did gusti and sumo
sampai tergolek2 kah3 teruk betul. He’s also fighting so hard to adapt with his
cengeng wife yang sikit2 nak berair mata kalo touching pape maigadd annoying
betul bini camni hahahah. And he didn’t mind that I want to further my studies
far away from him, yet he is the one who supports the most! He also taught me
of what I didn’t know, he let me be the queen of our palace, letting me to
decorate and serlahkan bakat as housewife. The most important thing is, he will
finish off everything that I cook for us, each time. Like pinggan semua licin
sehhh!! Of course I won’t mind cooking for him if that is the way he eat my
cooking hahahah. But the negative side is both of us got spare tyres on our
both sides omaigaadddddd!!! I myself gained 8 KILOS after 3 month babe duhhh!!!
*facepalm* We are soooo going to do something before it’s too late LOL. Padahal
dah 23 tahun hidup dengan underweight alahaii.
Of all those
things, the biggest thing that I feel glad he’s being tolerate for is on
pursuing my dreams. Since before we got married, he is my greatest supporter
other than my family. He cleared to me that he won’t mind I’m working or studying
after we got married later. He let me decide on my dreams. Whatever my
decision will be, he will support. So that is why I dared to further my studies to
Ireland soon, insyaAllah (Alhamdulillah I passed an interview with the Irish
institute director and got scholarships^^).
Well, people
keep asking me “kenapa tak bawa husband sekali?”, “kenapa nak tinggal husband
sorang2 kat Malaysia?”, “tak patut betul tinggal suami macam tu” and the list
goes on. Even parents pun kinda reluctant to let me go before knowing that my
husband supports my decision. Allahu, only He knows how those words break my
heart so much. There is no one that willing to leave their spouse for a long
time laaa. I’m doing this with his support. He is the one who won’t let me give
up on this opportunity. PLUS, SAPE NAK TANGGUNG WEHH DEDUA NAK DUDUK IRELAND
PUHLEASEEEE!! He also got his own commitment here lah. You wouldn’t expect he
will leave his job as a doctor here, right? Ceiitttt!
He once
told me, “You’re going there to study. For jihad fi sabilillah. Why would I hold
you back, right? Whatever your decision is, I will support you. You already got
this chance. Grab it. You’ve also gone through many things for this.”
So for
the sake of knowledge, we have to go through this.
As for him,
he also just passed an interview at IIUM Medical Centre and now waiting for the
official letter (well I think it’s already near a month passed aigoo).
Cecepatlah sampai surat panggilan tu. Let him start his new life there. It’s
too stressful here. I’ve seen it myself. May he get his happiness and
satisfaction working in a new place later, insyaAllah.
All in all,
these are few things that I learnt from our first 100 days of marriage. May
these stay forever, insyaAllah. Aamiin.
1. COMMUNICATE.
Don’t keep it to yourself. Especially if it is a big thing. This is the key for
a good marriage far from bad thoughts.
2. APOLOGIZE.
Each time you do wrong, lower down your ego and ask for forgiveness. We can
avoid hard feelings by doing this.
3. CHEERISH
THE TIME BEING TOGETHER.
Well, most of the hours are in workplace kan. So avoid
negative things and negative feelings. It’s a waste of time. Take the chance to nurture the love.
4. UNDERSTANDING.
Being a wife of a doctor, I should adapt to his priorities. Yet he also did his
best for his wife so I won't feel lonely if he got on call or locum at the clinic at night. Should keep this up.
5. TOLERATE.
We do have our things and hobbies. So do me and him. Let him have his time on
his hobbies; gaming and badminton. I just let myself into badminton too so we
can have fun together.
6. SUPPORTIVE.
Seriously this heals a lot. Support each other. It is the best medicine,
surely.
7. BE
MATURE.
It doesn’t matter to be a kanak-kanak Ribena till now but be wise on
the situation.
8. LAUGHS.
Well yang ni terlebih doses dah rasanya. He kept on laughing whenever I say and
do something that maybe funny to him hahahah kadang pelik plak aku ni kelakar
sangat keee asyik nak gelak je LOL. Yet it feels good to see him cheerful
ihiks.
9. AIMING
FOR HIS BLESSINGS.
Perform solat and recite al-Quran together, go to mosque
together for teachings.
10. SYUKUR.
Always do reflections and express gratitude to Allah for His blessings. Be
thankful with everything you got. It will make us value this bond.
Dear
husband, I hope that we can keep on improving our life and live a happy life
till jannah. The test is not yet to come but I hope we can prepare our best self
to go through anything that will appear in the future. May we always refresh
our love and always be the newly-wed couple living a harmonious life. Infinity
thank you for coming into my life, waiting years for me, and took this ordinary
little girl as your life partner. InsyaAllah we got each other forever. Aamiin.
I think
that’s all for now. These are just my thoughts going through early stage of
marriage. It’s still new for me to give advices and so. Me too taking positive
things from others’ experiences too. So may we get the benefit,
insyaAllah. Please pray the best for me, my marriage, my studies and my life.
May Allah bless all of you. Thank you.
Wallahua’lam.
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| Long journey to go. |
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P/s: I haven't write about my wedding yet. Coz I'm still waiting for my pictures. Sobbss. Will do it. I promise. Stay tuned ^^
